As I was browsing online, I came across an article about Lil Kim along with pictures of her “new look.” Like many of you, I didn’t recognize her until I read her name in captions. I was very appalled to see such a drastic transformation in her disposition. Instantly, I began to briefly ponder, “what made her do this?” The real answer may never be revealed but it’s obvious from reading that she struggles with self-esteem. It appears as if she’s in denial but it’s definitely a possibility.
I can recall to my younger days when I struggled with my identity. I was always told I was pretty or beautiful but I didn’t believe it for myself. Although I didn’t consider myself “too dark,” deep within I still was uncomfortable with my skin. Sometimes I even heard, “you’re a pretty little dark girl.” Why the emphasis on dark? Surely I’ve seen darker people. If I were light, white, or mixed would you still say the same?
I honestly don’t know when it was but it probably wasn’t until my late adolescent years that I began to embrace myself. Ok if I’m dark, I’m also going to be lovely. I had to build myself confidently over time. It’s interesting because over time, I gradually transitioned from wishing to be lighter to accepting who God designed me to be.
As I was reading about Lil Kim, I couldn’t help but reflect on the hair product(s) specifically designed for African-American hair, “Dark and Lovely.” On each product, there is a woman pictured on the front. These women appear poised and confident but most of all they are dark and lovely of similar shades. No disrespect in any way to mixed, light, or brown sisters in any way.
No matter who you are or what shade you are, I encourage you to gain boldness and embrace the skin you’re in. As you’ve been reading, you may have said silently, “well I’m dark but how I can I possibly be “lovely.” Psalm 139:14 (English Standard Version) says, “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”
Not only should you thank your Heavenly Creator but your soul should know just how lovely your feel within. So again, my friends be encouraged. Don’t let anyone mock you of your skin. Don’t wish to be lighter because you think you will fit in or be more popular. One of Lil Kim’s reviews is that men from past relationships told her they wished she was lighter. Are you living to please yourself or others? Song of Solomon 1:5a (ESV); “I am very dark, but lovely.” So on today remember be you, be bold, be dark and lovely.